You/you'd

A daughter is visiting her drug-addicted mother at a rehab center. She's been visiting the mother a couple of times since she checked in. The daughter says this to the mother:

1) I can’t tell whether you'd really like me to come by here like I’ve done or if you’d rather just be left alone.

2) I can’t tell whether you really like me to come by here like I’ve done or if you’d rather just be left alone.

3) I can’t tell whether you’d really want me to come by here like I’ve done or if you’d rather just be left alone.

4) I can’t tell whether you really want me to come by here like I’ve done or if you’d rather just be left alone.

5) I can’t tell whether you really appreciate me coming by here like I’ve done or if you’d rather just be left alone.

Could I use all of the five examples below? Which of the examples will be most appropriate to use in this context?

Is 'like I’ve done' needless if it is known that she's been there visiting a few times before?

Does 'really' here mean 'actually/genuinely/in fact/truly'?

Thank you very much in advance.