Which of the examples should I use?

A daughter is visiting her drug-addicted mother at a rehab center. She's been visiting her a couple of times since she checked in. Which of the examples below will be most appropriate to use in this context?

1) I can’t tell whether you'd really like me to come by here like I’ve done or if you’d rather just be left alone.

2) I can’t tell whether you really like me to come by here like I’ve done or if you’d rather just be left alone.

3) I can’t tell whether you’d really want me to come by here like I’ve done or if you’d rather just be left alone.

4) I can’t tell whether you really want me to come by here like I’ve done or if you’d rather just be left alone.

5) I can’t tell whether you really appreciate me coming by here like I’ve done or if you’d rather just be left alone.

Or would you prefer a sixth version?

Is "like I’ve done" needless if it is known that she's been there visiting a few times before?

Also, does 'really' here mean 'actually/genuinely/in fact/truly'?

Thank you very much in advance.