You have the problem that "which one" can mean one out of a group of any large size, and so knowing which one is Sarah may not help you know which one is Mary. But saying you don't know is almost always safe, and so all but the last one are correct (I think), but they do not convey much useful information. Also you recently requested to be my friend.
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