1) 'Crossed'' is a standard and idiomatic term for this action,'Bent' is not. Another common and idiomatic term is 'folded'. 2) Choose 'relaxed', because the use of 'but' means you have to choose a word that offers a contrast with 'under a lot of stress'.
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