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New2grammar Posted 18 years ago
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What should I do? Estranged relationship

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00My husband and I have been married for seven years and together ten years. The first 3 years were just sweet. He periodically surprised me with gifts and unexpected [moves?] such as taking me to dinner even though he knew I'd made dinner, singing to me, and taking me to the [ballroom dancing club?/ what do you call a club that plays jazz/tango music]. During our fourth to seventh year together, he'd become less interested in me and spent most of his him at work and sometimes at night, he'd rather sit at the computer surfing the Internet or chatting online. Our relationship took a turn for the worse in the eight year when I learned that he was intimate with a female colleague. When asked, he denied any special relationship. For the past one year, we rarely talk. We only talk when needed, about mortgage, dinner, bills and things of that sort. What should I do? 02br
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0 01blockquote 01cite 10New2grammar12cite 10My husband and I have been married for seven years and together ten years. The first 3 years were 11font 11del 10just 12del 12font 10sweet. / what do you call a club that plays jazz/tango music]12font 12del 10.

— Huevos

  • 0 01blockquote 01cite 10New2grammar12cite 10My husband and I have been married for seven years and together ten years.
  • The first 3 years were 11font 11del 10just 12del 12font 10sweet.
  • / what do you call a club that plays jazz/tango music]12font 12del 10.
  • 11font 10Over the period from 12font 11del 11font 10During12font 12del 10 our fourth to 11font 10our 12font 10seventh year together, 11font 11font 10he became 12font 11del 10he'd become12del 12font 10 less interested in me and spent most of his him at wor11font 10k,12font 10 and sometimes at night, he'd rather sit at the computer surfing the Internet or chatting online.
  • Our relationship took a turn for the worse in the 11font 10eighth 12font 11font 11del 10eight 12del 12font 10year when I learned that he was intimate with a female colleague.
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01cite10New2grammar12cite10My husband and I have been married for seven years and together ten years. The first 3 years were 11font11del10just 12del12font10sweet. He periodically surprised me with gifts and unexpected 11font10exitements 12fon
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0Thanks, Huevos, but I have a couple of question.02br
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001. Why does "During ...had become" not work for you? What does it mean to you?02br
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00 2. Can I replace barely with rarely? What's the difference?02br
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00And thanks for the advice. Don't worry. It's not a story of my life. 050010id1
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0Hi,01ol
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  1. 00I would use "during" when the point of view was from within one unit, and one unit only; so "01i01font00during02font00 our fourth 01font00year02font02i00" is ok but if there were more than one year it would be "01i01font00
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0Thanks, Huevos, Now I understand #1. 02br
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00I think there's a misunderstanding on #2. I asked for comparison between 01b00rarely02b00 and barely. 0-
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  1. 00Did you see my question above about the perfect?02li
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  2. 00Oops! Well "01i00rarely02i00" just means it was not frequently where as "01i00hardly02i00", "01i00scarcely02i00", and "01i00barely02i00" all have the feeling of a negative aspect.02br
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01. Yes. Good point. 02br
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002. Does it mean you would accept rarely equally well? Thanks in advance.0-
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0 2. No, which is why I changed it. This is a matter of style though so don't worry to much about it. Anyway my point was this: there are many people I 01i00hardly02i00 ever speak to but when we do we immediately pick our relationship back up at the friendly point where we left it on the previous occasion. 01i00"Barely02i00 speak" on the other hand d
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0"01i00Hardly02i00,00 though often interchangeable with 01i00scarcely00 02i00and 01i00barely02i00,00 usually emphasizes the01b00 idea of the difficulty02b00 involved: 00We could 01i00hardly 02i00endure the winter. 01i00Barely00 02i00emphasi
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0N2G, in my sentence above hardly and rarely are interchangable. The level of difficulty in this case is that "I don't often see them so we don't get the chance". Regarding barely in this context the margin of safety is "enough to get the mortgage and bills paid but no more". As I said above though this is a matter of style and is just something that taints the overall emotion of the sentence; i
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