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hi everyone,

i am from the UAE and exactly from Dubai

Arabic is the formal language and my second language is English and it is too bad. I am studing in local university and i have faced many problems in English language. I have this essay and i want every one to coment in it because if i did this essay badly, i would faild the course and i do not want for sure.So, plzz start to check it as much as you can and i would be thankful.

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i want it today

here is my bad essay :

A good parenting





Through range of tasks that our life requires, parenting seems to be the hardest one and the most one that has the priority to be debated. When we ask someone to give a good exemplary definition of parenting, a quick answer he or she might say is that it encompasses of father and mother who collaborate together in order to provide perfect nourishments for their children. Defiantly, no one can negotiate with this answer and say it wrong, but it is, in another way, insufficient answer and does not have the complete sense. For reasoning that logically, he or she misses one of the essential components that parenting should be constructed on which is exchanging the values[ . To clarify more, the definitions for a real perfect parenting are varied from one to another relaying on their experience in nourishing their children. Nevertheless, from my own point view, a good parenting must be accompanied by some techniques which are: getting deeply involved more with children, setting adjusting rules , and encouraging children socially, intellectually and mentally.



As I mentioned before, there is no exact definition for a good parenting but for sure there are some approaches or techniques that contribute us to achieve it. Getting deeply involved with children is one technique. This means to have tight rapports between the children and their parents, and that can be accomplished by keeping children in touch all the time. To clarify more, we really see some obvious differences particularly in aspects of behaviors and manners between the children who spend more with their family and the children who do not. The first types of children are seeing like more sociable and have easy abilities to make friendships than the second types of children. To evident that more, I have two personal experiences from our friends ,who are studying now in general education in Zayed University, that represent the both types of children, Hend represents the first groups and Nawal represents the second ones. My friend Hend has 3 sisters and 4 boys and she is the fourth one of them and the middle of them. Despite of the large number of the family, the parent could control their children wisely. For example, the parent plans to assemble together with their children for four hours per day in order to know the day- to – day news and their children’s demands and problems. A result of that, Hend gains good benefits from that which is building a strong personality either in the house or outside and having abilities to establish more friends. In contrast, Nawal seems to be isolated from other girls in the university and I really do not see her participating with others even if there are some tasks that require working in group. I was not surprise from her behaviors when I knew that her relation with her parents is quite bad. Her father, actually, has three wives and he has maybe more than thirteen sons and daughters. The reasons are not primarily come from that, but from the father’s injustice in dealing with his wives and children. Thus, that weakens the relation between Nawal and her family and that leads her to be isolated. Another approach or feature of a good parenting is setting adjusting rules . Unfortunately, most parents see themselves as open-minded people and inerrant from doing mistakes, and they see their children as ones who do most of the mistakes and should be punished. Actually, a good parent in this situation are who examine them what is the good punishment should their children must have. Moreover, they do not use the same rules as their parents, grand and friends used to impose on their children because of the differences in the time, situation , and the children’s behaviors as well . The last technique is encouraging children socially, intellectually and mentally. I mean by that is that a good parent should not only be concentrating on teaching and assisting children in doing homeworks, but they also have some other parts to do in. To illustrate more, a good parent is who seeks to develop their children intellectually, mentally by providing them by encouraging their hobbies and talents. A good example of that, my friend Buthaina, studding in , participate in all events that our university offers like clubs for example. Her parent, in fact, is the first one who motivates her in doing that. As what she told me, there is a creative room in her house built by her parent and she alongside with her all family’s members spend two to do many things like painting, creating new things, doing competitions and so on. In fact, this surprised me with sense of amazement because it is strange to see like this room in our society, even though this one way to achieve a good parenting.



There is a good program called “House Swap” that has some relations in depicting what is meant by a good parenting and how to make our families capable to be a phenomenal family. This program is shown in MBC Channel once weekly, and the idea of it is to swap between the mothers of the two families that have some mostly opposite values, attitudes and rules. Unlike other programs, there is no money rewards for the winner family, but the big rewards are changing of the both families positively. On time I saw one episode of this program and it was about swapping between the family who had opposite views in deciding the good one who should work the husband or the wife. The two families were: Mark’s family who supported women working, and James’ family who supported men working.



This episode has shown either directly or indirectly some features of good parenting. Actually, I am bias with James’ family because I see that they match nearly with my suggested techniques in having a good parenting which are: getting deeply involved more with their children, setting adjusting rules, and encouraging children socially, intellectually and mentally. The reasons for that are because James’ family spends more time than Marks’ family does. It is right that James spends more time working in his job, but he does as much as he can to spend two hours with his children beside the weekends. In contrast, in Mark’s family, the woman spends more time in working and his husband is responsible in doing all the house’s works and after completing them, he goes to sleep . I think this is completely wrong because their children only do not get the kindness neither from their father nor their women. [ Another reason for being biased with James’ family is because the father has the responsibility in putting adjusted rules with sharing of his wife’s’ decision. In addition, he punishes his children when it is right to punish them. While in the other family, the mother is the one who decides the rules, although her short period of spending at home, without getting assistance from her idle husband. So, who can believe that this house is not full of chaos? . The last reason is the concern of James’ family in encouraging children socially, intellectually and mentally. Actually, his wife stays with her children everyday to help them in studying and also she reads stories for them daily and asked them about them. In addition, when James has a vacation, he would rather do games and competition with his children. Whereas in the other family, the children, who are mostly teenagers, go out and come back again at night and most of them do not have aim for why they studding in school.

However, there should be some opposite arguments that criticize the same my point view. These objections see that Mark’s family represents a phenomenal parent and family. These objectors see that women have all rights in working outside home and if she does not, she then will do all of the homes’ responsibilities besides caring of children alone. This is totally wrong, because in Marks; family, the children share home responsibilities with their women, and that will empower the relations among them. Another objection is that women should have the complete decisions in saying whether the children should be punished or not. I also disagree with that because how Mark’s wife set rules and she is most of the time at work. The last objection is that children know are growing up and they become more open- minded gradually, so there is no need to stay with them teaching or doing games and competitions between them.This is also wrong because children and teenagers are the most targeted victims for every bad things, so they should have one to direct them correctly. Moreover, their personalities in theses stages are shaped and parents themselves can make them productive members.



In conclusion, as I said before, there is no exact definition for a good parenting, but there are some features or approaches that contribute to reach it gradually. Some of my suggested features are: being deeply involved more with their children, setting adjusting rules, encouraging children socially, intellectually and mentally. Briefly, a good parenting is really a very imperative process in our life because children are shadow of parents for the outside world ,and people might know how perfectly or badly there are from them. Not only that but also the nourishment’s influences will might be inherited when the children themselves become parents at one day and will affect the new generations, so that why a good parenting should be required and necessary in all families