I don't know how widespread this is, and I'm not sure why one would want to replace the em dash with a tilde. I can see using an en dash, since it's easier to type (though there are various ways to add an em dash if you need to). I occasionally use a tilde to indicate "approximately", but not in lieu of an em dash.
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