CalifJim,
This is the best explanation I've ever read. I took it from someome else. Congratulations!!

Now are you glad you asked? Or sorry?
Personally, I'm incredibly happy for this chart!! I really am!!!
The use and non-use of
-ingwith stative verbs is a very big topic. The following touches on a few points you may find useful.
Verbs of sensation:
Verbs of the
production of sensation:
smell, taste, feel, look, sound.
NO -ing.
The flower smells good. That noise sounds like a cricket. The stew tastes too salty. Verbs of
passive reception:
smell, taste, feel, see, hear.
NO -ing.
I smell something burning. Do you taste the nutmeg in this sauce? Paul heard the alarm bell. Verbs of active,
attentive reception:
smell, taste, feel, look at, listen to.
Without -ing. Habitual.
Jane often tastes the soup as she cooks it. We often look at those old photos. Richard never listens to classical music.With -ing. Action in progress.
JoAnn is smelling the flower by inhaling deeply. Frank is feeling the carpet to decide if it will be thick enough. The children are listening to their favorite radio program. Special cases: Imaginary or hallucinatory sensations.
-ing.
see, hear.
He is seeing things. He is hearing voices.Verbs of bodily sensations:
itch, ache, feel (a physical sensation, not a tactile sensation as above). With or without
-ing.
Same meaning either way.
My arm [itches / is itching]. Her head [aches / is aching]. I [don't feel / am not feeling] well this morning.Verbs of mental activity:
think (have an opinion),
imagine (guess, believe),
plan (have a firm intent),
hope, wish, believe, understand.
NO -ing. But see exceptions below.
I think he is wrong about that. I plan to travel to London next month. Karen understands everything in this lesson. Exceptions may occur when the verb takes on a slightly different meaning.
think (ponder),
imagine (form a mental picture),
plan (participate actively in making plans) With or without
-ing.
Without -ing. Habitual.
I often think about the meaning of life. Children often imagine that they can fly. Larry plans a trip to China every year, but never goes.With -ing. Action in progress.
I'm thinking about what she meant by her remarks. I'm imagining myself as a rich man. Charles is planning a trip to Australia. And some of these verbs (
wish, hope) connote something more temporary when used with
-ing.
Laura is wishing for a new coat this Christmas. I'm hoping for good weather tomorrow.Verbs of stance:
stand, lie, live. With
-ing. Temporary. / Without
-ing. Permanent.
George is standing over there, in the corner. That statue stands in the main hall of the hotel. Mary is lying on the couch just now. The valley lies between Mount Snowy and Mount Grace. We're living in Detroit for now. We may move soon. We live in Kansas, and we always have.Stative verbs in general.
NO -ing.
contain, belong, matter, deserve, consist, please, depend, own, possess, have, ... [There are many.]
Exception: When the verb takes a non-stative meaning, it may have
-ing.
I have two sisters and a brother. NO -ing. Stative meaning.
I'm having a party this Saturday night. -ing. Non-stative meaning.
Exception: When there is a progressive change of state, there may be an
-ing.
This situation is pleasing me less and less. The fact that he is ill is mattering more and more.____________________Now are you glad you asked? Or sorry?
CJ