So is not really a coordinating conjunction, of which there are only three (though I see that it is called a semi-coordinator in Quirk et al ). It usually subordinates, and can in fact accompany a coordinating conjunction: I fell asleep, and so I missed the end of the movie . I'm not really aware of the situations in which a comma is or is not preferred.
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