You do not mean 'progressive perfect'; you mean 'past perfect'. After finding out what he did / had done , I decided to confront him and tell him how I really felt about his being neglectful. -- It is optional; the past perfect is unnecessary here because the order of past events is clear enough, but it may be used for emphasis.
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