Shaheen Nath(TCS),(Udaipur)-How my Relationship with the Bohra

Shaheen Nath(TCS),(Udaipur)-How my Relationship with the Bohra Muslim Girl from Udaipur finally broke apart
* From: Swastika198327 (Email Removed) * Date: Thu, 8 Jan 2009 09:05:33 -0800 (PST)
Let me make it very clear that I am not a lout neither a vagabond who is prone to tomfoolery.I come from a family of academicians and judges of impeccable repute and integrity.My father was a senior professor in IIT Kgp and now he is with the Atomic Energy Commision as an Emeritus Professor.My sister is a Journalist and my grandpa was a Senior jude in the Supreme Court.I myself work in a reputed ITcompany in Bangalore.My mom is an MA in English Literature and presently a House wife who has always played a pivotal role in shaping our minds and education since we were in School,from the works of Keats and Wordsworth,to the essays of Huxley and Disraeli,she was instrumental in moulding us as educated humans of irrefutable intellects
I was always a liberal in my heart.I considered every Indian irrespective of religion,gender,sex,ethnicity as my own countrymen .But my egalitarian outlook towards my countrymen who adhered to a different religion was only reciprocated with hatred,brutality,mistrust and disdain.Let me sum up the details of my past two years.
She never belonged to a family of skull,cap
wearing ,ghettoish Muslims.But with time I was able to strip her family members of the crass act of liberalism that was just a façade on their face.
Her Mom was very cordial to me in the start.But I was always oblivious to her Mephistiphilian mind as she talked to me in a motherly tone which was always so convincing but very soon I realized she was trying to play politics with her dirty,crooked mind .It traumatized me that she was such an evil,human underneath her skin while she conveniently put up a façade of benevolence which was so cunning an act of dirty hypocrisy.She always told Shaheen that she has no antipathy in our relationship .But much later I realized that she hated me from the start,hated me like an obnoxious creature,while she played and skillfully orchestrated a cunning game of political intimidation against my family,me myself and against my sister .
Exactly one year from now,last october I was asked my her mom to meet her Bro in Hyderabad.Her Bro was working with the Infosys at that time,being back from Switzerland and Dubai after six years of onsite posting.Her bro met me in person and talked to me in a tone that was concealed with a lot many words which were intensely diplomatic and politically correct ,but which made clear her intentions as crystal clear.Even while he spoke I could sense that deep hatred and condescending politeness which could never be appropriately concealed under his scornful look and opprobrium towards me,my physical presence was perhaps repulsive to him.I was repulsive because I was a Hindu ,I was repulsive because I was not a Bohra Muslim,I was repulsive because I was an Idol worshipper.I came to know of these things much later on.
Her bro called up her dad and narrated the entire incident three months after I had met him in Hyderabad.The first reaction of her dad towards our relatinship was?Tu Murti Puja karegi,tu ek Hindu se shaadi karegi,tu ek Kafir se shaadi karegi?.That was the first time I realized I was just another Kafir in their family,inspite of all my education ,inspite of all my eruditeness,inspite of all my liberalism.

Exactly a week after it happened I asked shaheen to write a letter to her Dad detailing our sojourn for the last three years.She complied with my request and did pen down a letter to her dad.It was then the real turbulence started in her life,it ripped apart all her convictions and beliefs that she had in our relationship.

Her dad asked her to come down to Udaipur on an occasion of her Grandmom?s demise and the consequent funeral rites.She met her entire family members in Udaipur ,her dad,her bro,her mom .Everyday ,every night her dad brutally assaulted her physically asking her to call of our relationship,since it would be a disgrace for Him amongst his Bohra Muslim Clan Members in Udaipur,when they come to know of our relationship.Her Bro called me a Lout and Disguised Hindutva Agent who wants to convert a Bohra Muslim Girl under the false pretext of love .Her Mom called Her a Sin in conception since her actions will bring disgrace to the entire Bohra Muslim Clan of Udaipur.
She came back to Mumbai after two weeks of staying in Udaipur,and narrated the entire incident to one of her close friends in Mumbai who in due course of time narrated the entire incident to me.I was shattered ,my senses were brutalized,my sensibilities were mutilated by her brutally,insensitive family members who wanted to keep their Bohra Muslim Daughter inside their clan of Bohra Muslims alone.For her family members,even all other muslims were untouchables,for example the Khojas,Memons(Shia Muslims) as well as Sunnis.This intense sectarianism and clan rivalry,hatred,blood feuds between clan versus clan,brutalized my instincts and education,traumatized me of all my sanity.I was treated like a second class citizen in my own country,I was brutally traumatized by those people of my country whom I considered my own in my own country,in my own Motherland.
She soon called off the relationship after
deliberating over it according to her
Own sense of ethics and reason,I tried to convince her for months at a stretch but it was all futile in the end.I tried to convince her a lot with my reasons and intellect.But she called up her bro and complained to him that I was harassing her mentally by sending her obscene sms?s.It was a brutal lie,a lie which never had any basis because I had never even used a single abusive word against her,against her family,against her clan,against her religion.It was like a Chameleon she complained to her Brother .It was a terrible lie and it is only me who knows it since noone ever will believe me,atleast her family members.
I started getting Anonymous calls from Hyderabad
soon after.It was all so weird and strange.I was abused like Hell by strange,gruff voices on the phone who threatened to kill me in bangalore if I do not mind my ways.I tried to reason with them but my reason and rationality was drowned under the volley of abuses ,calling me a Kafir,calling me a Hindu Bustard,Calling me an Idol worshipper.I can still forward you the mails I got from those anonymous ID?s in my mailbox.My mind was traumatized for days and months,I was abused with a slandering whirlpool of abuses against me,myself,my religion,my country,my parents,my culture.And this all happened from Bohra Muslim Men and women who always pretend to be intensely secular,liberal and extensively quote from Marx and Che Guevara to give credence to their claims.
These Bohra Muslims have a website on the internet

http://dawoodi-bohras.com/
,the irony is that while they pretend to be liberals and quite secular in their outlook,what I have experienced from a very close proximity is exactly the reverse,they are as primitive,tribalist,predatory and clannish as their more more orthodox counterparts among the Shia?s and Sunni?s.It has been six months now.She was married off to her cousin in USA who works in Infosys.I was traumatized ,my senses and sensibilities were brutalized and mutilated by the entire brutal fiasco I started taking psychiatric pills soon after.At one point of time I even contemplated commiting suicide.But my counselor helped me with his intense sessions of psychotherapy.It was lost for ever,my angel was lost for ever,her voice was muffled by the strange,male,patriarchal,feudal cannibalism of her father and brother,she was made to accept a man of whom she knew too little while I had to close my eyes and weep.My memories will always remain with me,I?ll cherish them and silently weep over what I have lost for ever, perhaps I was mistaken,they never belonged to me,they were just fleeting moments of a spectacle with a divine providence,to enlighten me ,my fractured,myopic intellect.I do not know.I am confused,its all like a hazy past,hatred,pessimism,mistrust all merged into one.