remain in charge?

Hi! I'm a high school student named Lee Ji Hyun in Korea.

I have read your article impressively but I have one question.

The question is following


Gifted children, especially the verbally gifted ones, are often compared to lawyers: they argue as if they are in court. The case they are usually arguing is their own. They argue about rules, about punishment, discipline, bedtime, dinner. Basically, they'll argue about nearly anything they don't like or they want to avoid. Although a gifted child can make excellent arguments, it's important for parents to make sure they remain in charge.


No matter how bright a child is, he or she is still a child, and children, even the gifted ones, need guidance. They need rules and they need consequences when they break those rules. Gifted children should never be excused from bad behavior because they make a good case for having broken a rule. If children can talk their way out of the consequences for bad behavior, they, not their parents, end up being in control.

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?In fisrt paragraph, it(they remain in charge) means that their children should be in charge of thier behavior (or bad behavior)? or that thier parents should contorl their children's behavior??

I don't know what it means exactly.

So, please tell me how I should understand it.


Thanks^^*