First, a little tip: It's better to say, "I'm confused by (not 'confused with')..."
Then, in your quoted sentence--it could translate like this: 'I found myself wondering skeptically if Miss Cornell thought Mr Wilder and I had done well.'
'Done' would refer to something understood in the larger context of the sentence, such as in this scenario: Miss Cor
Davkett- I would tend to agree with the previous interpretation, where "done well by" means "treated fairly." I agree that in certain contexts, "by" can mean "in the opinion of," but I just don't think that's the case here. It reminds me more of a Jewish-American usage illustrated in the old joke "I see your son has bought a boat. He's bought a captain's hat. He thinks he's a captain. By me
Hi Davkett - I wasn't saying that the original sentence meant 'I found myself wondering sceptically if Mr Wilder and I had been treated fairly by Miss Cornell.', but rather "I found myself wondering if Mr. Wilder and I had treated Miss Cornell fairly." I take "if we had done well by her" to mean "if we had acq