Please rip apart my writing. It's been 10 years.

Why women pain me.

Mom gave me bad advice as a kid. She said be nice to girls because that’s what they are looking for. What a load of shit that is. Almost every girl I have come into contact with is involved with a jerk off. Now maybe I just think they are jerk offs because they have what I want. But I doubt it. I am kidding of course. Not all guys are jerk offs and not all girls are into jerk offs. But when you’re single and can’t seem to find a girl this is what it feels like. It seems like every girl that I would like to get to know better is evolved already. For some odd reason I like the girls that are dating jerk offs who treat them like crap. Maybe it’s a problem with me also. No matter how hard I try, I can’t seem to find the single girls out there. I have tried the online dating thing. This has turned up lukewarm results. I hear about all these poor single girls who just want to love a great guy. Well I’m not sure what tree they are growing on but I want to find this park.

Most guys don’t realize that they treating a girl wrong. We don’t go to a special school to learn about how to treat girls. So what do we do? We treat girls like we treat guys. This really is not what girls want. Nor should they. I don’t have a clue as to what girls want. I’m sure most want some of the same things, a happy family, good job & (fill in the blank) ____ man. These are all easy things, but beyond that, it is wide open. I could name 100 things girls might want when looking for a man. For guys it’s a pretty short list. The odd thing is what girls say they want and what they end up with are not really the same. Girls say they want some dude on a horse and they end up with the donkey.

I’m not sure if they are donkeys form the first date or if it’s something that evolves over time. I have to believe that these guys try to hide it at first, but that girls still can see it anyways. I believe in her hart, she thinks she can change him and that it’s ok if he is a dick now. This is flawed thinking. Guys know girls want to change them; all they have to do is go along with it till the girl is hooked. Then the guy can go back to their comfort level after a little time has passed. This is why you sometimes see hot girls with total losers. I think most girls don’t like to leave their safety zone after getting into a serious relationship. They would rather deal with the problem they know, then the problem they don’t know.

For a lot of guys the problem lays in the fact that they don’t like to be rejected. Being rejected can be very painful for men also. We will not admit to this of course. Being branded a pussy is even more painful. This is the difference between guys that get lots of chicks and the others. The old saying “the squeaky wheel gets the grease” is very true. Meaning that, guys who don’t let their fears stop them from approaching a girl will get some grease. Most guys start off being nice and caring, but after a couple of relationships the guys gets burned pretty bad and something inside clicks. The only way in his mind to get back at her is to get someone else and to do it fast. So when he makes his next move, he does not care about the girl in front of him it’s the one that burned him. This is what allows him not to care if he is rejected. For these guys only one girl’s rejections truly hurts. So he could be rejected 10 times in a night and not care if he lands just one. Now he has something he can show the first girl and maybe win her back. Most of the time this does not work.

A few things can happen at this point. He sticks with the second girl and treats her like crap, he sticks with the second girl and is the perfect man or he lets the rejection take over his life. These are the guys that are always single. Either they can’t commit because they don’t want to be rejected. Or the pain of being rejected scares them from approaching girls all together.