Please help with wedding invitations

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0Hi-I am designing my own wedding invitations, and my grammar is terrible. My friends cannot agree which of the following is correct. Can someone tell us which one is best?02br02br00Mr. and Mrs. XXX invite you to share the joy in the marriage of their daughter XXX XXXX to XXX XXXX02br02br00or 02br02br00Mr. and Mrs. XXX invite you to share in the joy at the marriage of their daughter XXX XXXX to XXX XXXX02br00or02br00Mr. and Mrs. XXX invite you to share the joy at the marriage of their daughter XXX XXXX to XXX XXXX0-

Rvw · Accepted Answer

0 01i00Dictionary.com02i00 has a transitive and an intransive definition of 01font00share02font00 that might work:01cite02br
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11font21i20v.22i20 21b20shared,22b20 21b20shar·ing,22b20 21b20shares 22b22br
21i20v.22i20 21i20tr.22i21cite22cite21cite22cite20 To participate in, use, enjoy, or experience jointly or in turns.22br
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21i20v.22i20 21i20intr.22i22br
20 To have a share or part.22br
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11font01cite02cite02font00I favor the transitive definition and would therefore say 01font00... share the joy....02br
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00I would say 01font00at the marriage02font00. This refers more clearly to the marriage ceremony. 01font00 In the marriage02font00 makes me uneasily wonder how long the guests are going to hang around.02br
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Philip · Answer

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01cite10Rvw12cite11i10Dictionary.com12i10 has a transitive and an intransive definition of 11font10share12font10 that might work:11cite12br
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21font31i30v.32i30 31b30shared,32b30 31b30shar·ing,32b30 31b30shares 32b32br
31i30v.32i30 31i30tr.32i31cite32cite31cite32cite30To participate in, use, enjoy, or experience jointly or in turns.32br
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31i30v.32i30 31i30intr.32i32br
30To have a share or part.32br
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21font11cite12cite12font10I favor the transitive definition and would therefore say 11font10... share the joy....11font10I would use "their" instead of "the" in this case.12font12br
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10I would say 11font10at the marriage12font10. This refers more clearly to the marriage ceremony. 11font10 In the marriage12font10 makes me uneasily wonder how long the guests are going to hang around. 11font10.12font12br
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11font00Great way of putting it! I believe that "marriage" used to refer only to the state of matrimony, "wedding" to the ceremony itself. "Marriage" seems to have taken over. So, the correct preposition is essential.02font00 0-

Rvw · Answer

0 But in the sentence01blockquote

01font10Mr. and Mrs. *** invite you to share 11u10their12u10 joy at the marriage of their daughter *** *** to *** ***.12br
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11font00their joy02font00 refers to that of Mr. and Mrs. ***, while01font00 the joy02font00 refers to everybody's.0-

Nona the brit · Answer

0I too prefer to invite them to share their joy. The parents are joyous. That's nice. And yes, it would be nice for people to appreciate that and come along to enjoy the day and wish the couple well.02br
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00It's pushing it a bit to assume that everyone will be walking round in a state of joy at the wedding. Most people will (hopefully) be pleased but joy is a very extreme emotion and only really one that the closest relatives and friends will be feeling. I've been to many weddings and been happy for the couple but not joyous for them.02br
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00To think of a roomful of people sharing joy is actually a bit scary to me, sounds like they are all in mass hysteria or something! Or like an order; you WILL feel joy that our daughter is getting married! If I were being invited to come and share someone's joy at an event I'd think, aaah that's sweet, they are so happy. If I were invited to come and share the joy I'd find it a bit too much.0-

Anonymous · Answer

I'm hashing out the same wording and really don't like "their joy" for the reasons RVW listed -- it puts the emphasis on the parents, rather than the couple and the ceremony in general.

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