Persuade

Can you please check these sentences for me.

Finally you persuaded her to think what you want about me.

Finally you persuaded her to think about me that/what you want.

She calumniated/condemned me to my girlfriend and because of that I lost my self respect to her.(basically a third person goes to my girlfriend and makes some false statements about me and the resultant I lost my self respect to her) now to make this sentence what could I say if she condemned me infront of her and in my back or absence.

Thank you in advance.