Amber, firstly it depends on how well you knew the mother and how close you are to the family. It also depends on how you perceive life as a person & religion etc. I might write something like this (assuming I knew the family a bit, but wasn't too close) Dearest : To apologise as people often do when someone passes away would be futile.
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