Are you talking about physical shaping (sounds gross) or shaping their personality?
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GPYI see. In that case "shape" and "mould" both work.
The Olmecs had the practice of deforming the heads of their babies. You can see it in their sculptures and skulls.
The technical term is "artificial cranial deformation." Apparently, it used to be a rather common practice in many cultures.