"Insidious" means "arousing resentment", or "likely to arouse resentment"; but it's sometimes used just to mean "unpleasant". In your examples, both meanings make sense. It would be unpleasant to have to choose (whether to break the law or risk lives, or whom to single out to thank); but more importantly, any such choice is likely to arouse resentment from somebody.
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