Hello HellenVare, There are Web sites devoted to the details of things like this. Go to one of the sites of companies that print wedding invitations, like Crane. I see you are in Costa Rica, so traditions may well be different there, but if one of my colleagues invited me with an envelope addressed to my husband "and wife," I'd be highly insulted.
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