Hi, instead basically means "in the place of" or "alternatively". 1) The word "actually" or "really" would be more appropriate here, as no one is choosing between a small New York and a big New York, they are affirming the fact that it is a big city, not a small one. "Really" and "Actually" emphasise this.
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