HELP to pursue NURSING???

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Hi I'm 18 and I'm from the Philippines. I'm currently studying in one of the most prestigious University in the Philippines, Well, Since I was little, I wanted to be a doctor because I actually wanted to help those in need. When I took entrance exams in the universities...I actually failed all of the entrance exams.. I was devastated because all the students in our school were entering the college they really wanted. But fortunately, my dad has a friend that works in this university and helped me get in so now I'm currently enrolled to BS NURSING which is my second choice than Pharmacy. So I started to study in the college this year June. Now, it is already september and I have doubts since I started June because NURSING is damn HARD!!! really HARD! I mean I did evrything, but still I fail in chemistry..even other subjetcs... So I realized maybe med is really not for me... I'm not a critical thinker and I'm not even good in Math... I did well in High School..I studied in a chinese Catholic school here in the Phiippines(I'm a pure chinese but grew up here, so I know how to speak in chinese and filipino) I did well because I was hard working but it's different now in COllege esp if you are taking a crash course!!... This are the things I considered: Nursing, If I continue.. I was thinking in the future that there are few job opportunities because there are already a lot of nurses. Even though you would work abroad in the future, I don't like because my family is here. and they say working abroad has a lot of money but the standard of living there is very high so it's pretty the same if you work here in the Philippines. To be a doctor, I think I can't do it anymore because, it really takes a long time to study and the tuition fee is almost 400,00 pesos a year... it's really a lot of money and risky if I would not be able to pass the licensure exam. then there comes the specialization. My mom really wants me to be a doctor but I really am planning to shift into HUMAN RESOURCE MANAGEMENT course..my dad approves of it and mom can't do anything ,I want to be in medicine field really but well I'm thinking practical and the salary is not enough and like I'll be 40-50 years old before I become rich and a famous doctor, AND I DON NOT WANT TO HELP THE SICK IF IT IS FOR MONEY.. DO you think my decision is right? anyone?.. I just feel that this decision of mine would really have an impact and I feel that I would do better in other fields...I just am scared if I would make a bad choice..really scared...=(

Griddler · Accepted Answer

Hi Madelaine,

firstly, just one little point, when you write such a long post, it is much easier for others to read online in a forum like this if you break up the post into paragraphs with a space between each one.

Anyway, regarding your question, here are my thoughts on it: You are very young, and while your parents have your best interests at heart, you have to remember that you are an individual with your own unique talents and skills. You are not your parents. They might want you to study 'a profession' such as medicine or law, but if you are not talented in a certain area, studying something like this because your parents expect it of you, will only make you very stressed and miserable. You could end up spending the next 4 years of your life studying, so you need to make sure it is a) something you enjoy and are interested in and b) something that is not too difficult for you.

For instance, I studied art and art history, my brain works best for creative, visual things. I was always bad at chemistry and maths too and there is no way I could have studied medicine or nursing, those subjects just didn't suit the way my brain worked. I'm not suggesting that you study an arts degree, all I'm saying is that you need to find a course of study that is suited to your abilities and that will allow you to work in both the Phillipines and abroad if you so wish.

Since you are just 18, is there any chance that you could take a year out from your studies and get some kind of job for that year, or even a few months, while you decide what you want to do? Instead of now deciding in a panic what you should study, this would give you a year to research various jobs, talk to people, look on the internet and so on. Perhaps even ask if you can attend some classes one time in various subjects, to see if it would any of them would be suited to you.

For instance, you asked about Human Resource Management. I know someone who studied this, and it was a really difficult course, with a lot of legal things to learn. So, be careful, any ideas that you have, make sure to do your research about what career you want and what is involved before you start another course of study and find that you don't like it, or that it is too difficult.

Also, if you study Human Resources in the Phillipines, I'm assuming that part of the course would relate to employment laws in your country, so if you were to move to another country, you might have to retrain in your new country because the employment laws would be different.

Also, you can still earn a living doing other things in the caring profession without being a nurse or doctor. You can work as a carer for disabled childen or adults or for elderly people. What about a dental assistant?

Here is a list of some caring professions that you might not have thought of: http://www.explorehealthcareers.org//en/Fields.aspx

best of luck!

Madelaine · Answer

Hi griddler,

Thank you very much for replying. You really did help me a lot! Thank you also for giving me the site, and I really did not know those careers so Thank you again.

You are very right that I should not decide because I'm in a panic mode. I' am now considering marketing management and business management beside human resource management. My plan in the future is to start a business that is why I'm considering business courses. But the risk here is that there is a lot of math, and as I said I'm not good in math but maybe I'll be able to handle it so I'm still researching.

You asked me if there is a chance that I might take a year off or a few months, well unfortunately my parents won't allow me, they are really strict and they are very traditional as I said I'm chinese so they won't really allow me because they would say that I'm wasting time and other stuff.

Science courses are not in my mind anymore, I'm not that smart and I'm just good in communication and how to handle different kinds of people so that's my skill.

Thank you very much!

your advice made me feel better=)

*** Bless!

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