1-You should have him to repair the car. instead of: 2-You should have him repair the car. Would one say: 3-Would you have her to be your wife? and does that mean the same as: 4-Would you have him be your husband?
You should have him to repair the car.-- No good. You should have him repair the car.-- OK Would you have her to be your wife?- Said in the marriage ceremony, I think, or a reasonable facsimile thereof. Meaning: 'Do you take her to be your wife?' Would you have him be your husband? = Do you want him to be your husband? (Not uttered in the marriage ceremony.)