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They would like to attend with my husband and I or They would like to attend with my husband and me.

Philip · Accepted Answer

Anonymous They would like to attend with my husband and I or They would like to attend with my husband and me.

Remove the words my husband. Then, would you say with I or with me? I hope you chose me.

Fivejedjon · Answer

Note the spelling of grammar

AlpheccaStars · Answer

Hi anon;

Which one of these would you say:

Will you play ball with I?
Will you play ball with me?

The rule is the same with your sentence. Choose the word that goes after "with."

Anonymous · Answer

Thank you.  Fingers moving too fast on the keyboard.  Can you provide an answer to the question?

Philip · Answer

Both Alpheca and I have offered answers.

RandomGuy · Answer

Anonymous…with my husband and I or
…with my husband and me.

Both are in use, but I would recommend choosing the accusative case in a test question.

Here’s a prescriptive grammar note from A Student’s Introduction to English Grammar, Huddleston & Pullum:

ii a. They invited Sandy and me. b. ^%They invited Sandy and l.

The pattern in [iib] is heard constantly in the conversation of people whose status as speakers of Standard English is clear, but it is nevertheless condemned as incorrect or illiterate by many usage manuals. For this reason it is not so common in print: editors will often ‘correct’ it. Nonetheless, examples are certainly found. Those who condemn it simply assume that the case of a pronoun in a coordination must be the same as when it stands alone. Actual usage is in conflict with this assumption. (Note that we have already come across another instance of coordinated NPs differing in form from non-coordinated ones: recall the discussion of husband and wife in [15iia].)

This is the discussion they are referring to:

ii a. They were living together as husband and wife. b. *I’ve met husband, but I don’t think I’ve ever seen him with wife.

In [iia] we have two closely related nouns in a coordination construction, which sometimes allows omission of the determiner. But the same nouns need determiners when they are not in a coordination, as we see from [iib].

Anonymous · Answer

Use the pronoun me, along with other objective pronouns such as us, him, her, you, and them, when the pronoun is the object of a preposition.

RandomGuy · Answer

AnonymousUse the pronoun me, along with other objective pronouns such as us, him, her, ~~you~~, and them, when the pronoun is the object of a preposition.

Good advice, but in this case it is not the pronoun that is the object of a preposition but rather the coordination my husband and I/me.

Mekkalomp · Answer

I always thought that you should pick me when it is not the subject.
In this case 'they' is the subject so we should pick 'me' instead of 'I'

He wants to play with Bob and me.
Bob and I want to play with him.

I always follow the above mentioned examples.

Ozzourti · Answer

mekkalompHe wants to play with Bob and me. Bob and I want to play with him. I always follow the above mentioned examples.

And I would suggest that you continue to do so.

Here's a video on this very issue:

I see no reason to try to change such a well-established guideline. It was observed centuries ago, and it is also observed today—at least by careful speakers. Also:

When you are invited by anyone to a wedding feast, do not sit down in the best place, lest one more honorable than you be invited by him; and he who invited you and him come and say to you, ‘Give place to this man,’ and then you begin with shame to take the lowest place.
Luke 14:8-9 (King James Version)

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