Always use it or never use it within a work, except on the rare occasions when its presence or absence causes ambiguity. Use a comma to indicate a "pause" only in casual writing, poetry, fiction, and the like, but be aware that if the serial comma pops up and disappears at your whim, the reader will be distracted by it, which is a Bad Thing.
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