" just means that she was in some place ("here") doing the thing mentioned. It's not clear from this fragment what incident he's referring to, and it may be that "here she was" refers to her general behaviour rather than to a specific, identified place and time. "denying me my father" means pretty much what you say: refusing to let him see his father, never talking about him about his father, and so on.
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