Could you correct wrong things in my thread?

It is a very interesting issue.
There is a saying – if you really love the blue bird in the cage, you should put it out from and let it fly into forest and feel as free as it wants.
The recent philosophies and Buddhism are certainly teaching us what real love is.
Wise mothers just teach their children to which limiting line they can behave. And they let their children feel freedom as much as they want unless their children break its limitation which symbolizes why they must not give inconvenience or something to the others, why they have to keep the regulations in our society, why they sometimes have to know saving money and so on.

In this sense, if you two, a man and a girl, really love each other, you guys can give each other a freedom, not a duty since love is freedom.

It is like that a wise mother can be satisfied at only watching her son growing up freely and healthy because the fact that there is someone she loves, itself makes her happy.

Doesn’t she want anything from his son?
No! She doesn’t want anything because she is an independent person emotionally and economically from those of his son.
My words can be a little cruel sound to someone. Let’s say my point once again in other word.
She doesn’t want any emotional or economical supports from her son.
I bet that the sons who has grown up under such parents know how to give his lover and friends real love and friendship because they know how to express their warm mind to the others without hoping any greed and any purpose.
Hoping something return and give the other a gift is a kind of greed, you know.

Now I can return to your subject, if we want to enjoy freedom, then we need to love ourselves first.
What should we do in order to love ourselves? We should be perfectly independent persons in economical and emotional environment. Unfortunately, this world we’re presently living requires us to get a job if we want to make living without depending economical help and support from the others.