I think the 'blatant discrimination' is shown by the men towards the women so the 'bemused tolerance' is also shown by the men towards the women so it is your idea of 'we don't know why but we are tolerant'. The men show tolerance towards the women but aren't really convinced, maybe rather condescending or it's something we have to do these days.
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