You need the plural form of the verb, so: "He as well as I are to be blamed" which is the same as: "He and I are to be blamed" You could also use "have" such as: "He and I have to be blamed" but the meaning is a little different. "Are to" is like "will" and "have to" is like "must". Edit: Putting he before I is just convention.
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