That would depend on the context. If you said the following, I would recommend placing it at the first: We've been debating about whether or not our friends, Jim and Sue, are too stuck in a rut as a live-in couple and should take the plunge and get married. They've thought about it, but just don't seem that bothered by the lack of legal formalities for their relationship.
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