A few different qeustions

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i want to know (if needed) why you changed the scentences...rather than just changing it to the correct form, i also want to know why.

its a bit long, but please help me.

1.

"I hate it when someone close to me dies and people ask me if I'm okay"

shoudnt it be:

"I hate it when someone close to me is dead and people ask me if I'm okay"
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2.
"she had died three months ago" OR "she died three months ago" OR any other form.

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3.
"this is the first time someone who is close to me dies" OR "this is the first time that someone who is close to me died/is dead/dead"
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4.

• someone is telling me he doesnt go to parties OR he isnt going to parties(usually)

• he is sad about it, i want to tell him, dont worry you will go, then i can say this: you would soon (go to parties) OR you will soon(go to parties)

• i want to ask himn if he usually goes to parties, how may i ask him that?

are you going to parties OR do you go to parties OR something else

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5.
im talking to my freind on msn and i want to ask him if he has already decided where he will go next year.(did i write that right ^^)

"do you know where you are going next year?" (im not sure about that one)

"do you know where do you go next year?"

"do you know where you go next year?"

(i really think those all are incorrect)

any others?
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6.
what is the differnces between these:

"I will do it"
"I would do it" (honeslty, i belive this scentence is incorrect) because would is used in past future or If conditinals...if im wrong let me know.

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"im going to my causin house next week"
ok, im not proficient in the details, but isnt the "going" in the progressive?
"i will go to my causin hosue next week" better?

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what are the uses of the word "got"

"i got time" (now)
i see some people say things with "got"
but not necessarily in the past, for example:"i got time(right now)"
and others i cant think of right now

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9.
"i would be happy if you were smarter" correct?
OR
"i will be happy if you are smarter(i mean, get more smarter, in the future)"
*its related to the IF condiinoals so i think a little review of the rules will help
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10.
someone manage to think of a good idea to help me study better, i want to tell him:

"it would help" im not sure about the "would" here
"it could help"
OR
it will help (yes, just will)
*although i want to say that his idea will probably help, im not certain that it will...
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11.

"You would generally want to use"
if its "generally" (usually) than why "would"?
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12.

"I have got good grades in the tests" OR "I got good grades in the tests"

does it depends on when it happened?

13.

what are the differnces between:

"i never grow up"
"im never growing up"

AND THATS ALL FOR now

AND OTHER LITTLE THING:

brief ( or if you want you can go into details), review of the IF conditionals.
brief ( or if you want you can go into details), review of the word "would".

-HOW DO YOU THINK I CAN LEARN ENGLISH?

some tips...

THANK YOU

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