Can anyone please help me correct the mistakes

We do not judge the people we love



Trough our youthfulness we often form our “idols, role models”, hence people we follow their example. These are usually our parents, older brothers and sisters, friends and all the people we love. You cannot judge, criticize someone you want to be like. But why then it happens so often?

Firstly, people frequently react in affection, and do not think much what they are saying. We spend a lot of time with people we love and like, so possibility that something like this can happen is even bigger. In the relationship with others we should stay conservative, reserve some judgments from them and react cautiously. For example, it happens sometimes to me that I do not listen to my mother and sometimes even offend her. But it always takes time for me to realize that I was not doing the right thing. At least I have got luck that she is so understanding.

Secondly, judging cannot be always meant as something bad, negative or even insulting. It is the way how children learn from their parents, the way we learn what people respect and like. For example, a few years ago a friend judge me that I did not invite him on my birthday’s party. It happens by mistake, because at that time I was overloaded with organization, so I simply forgot him. And today I always make the list of my friends and tick the invited one.

On the other hand, people who are close to us and we love them are hard to judge. We respect them, and in their deeds we see only good. For example, a child who is living in the family where father is the thief, he can not judge him; even that he knows that is not right.

To conclude, we should expand our behavior from the people we love to all people in our lives. It is the way to avoid many unpleasant moments and keeping honest friendships.